Ok guys, (and girls) Valentine's Day is Thursday. This day comes with a lot of expectation, right? Guys wonder what gift to buy, where to go eat dinner, what is the perfect message on a card?  Believe it or not fellows, to some women, those things may not matter AT ALL. My wife was familiar with this already. In fact, I have heard her mention it several times. Last night, she turn on the TV to an episode of Oprah she had DVR'rd . Oprah had Dr. Gary Chapman on her show talking about his book The 5 Love Languages.

I have never been one for mushy-gushy stuff but I was intrigued from the beginning. Apparently, there are five "Love Languages" and each of us speaks our own. This goes for our spouses and children.

The best I could figure out, "Love Languages" are things or words spoken or done to you that make you feel loved. If you feel loved, your life is better, plain and simple. There is a simple quiz to find out your love language. According to Dr. Chapman, these are the five:

  1. Words of Affirmation
  2. Acts of Service
  3. Physical Touch
  4. Receiving Gifts
  5. Quality Time

After watching the show for a while, I decided to take the quiz. Of course, I was a bit skeptical. My wife had taken the quiz already. Her LL is Quality Time. After a bit of thought, I agree 100% with the results of her quiz. Looking back over the years, she is happier when I shut down the crazy world around me and spend time with her. Even if it is something as simple as going to the grocery store or cooking supper together, time with me makes her feel loved.

My results were a little surprising to me. Dr. Chapman's quiz revealed my Love Language is Words of Affirmation. This means I need Randi to say nice things, give compliments, and assure me she is proud of me. That sounds crazy. Guys need to be "assured"? Apparently so. Check out my results page below:


We will dive into this deeper on Madison and Shepherd Tuesday morning. Go ahead and take your Love Language Quiz. We'll open phones in the 7 o'clock hour tomorrow morning and do some marriage counseling!